Human Sexuality
I was a little late for class today because Jonathan and I had to pick up Joanne at school, but no biggie! I was able to miss the first 20 minutes of class, which was the most boring part. However, Human Sexuality was GREAT today. I learned a lot about love and relationships. First of all, we learned about (and how to find) the Grafenberg spot also known as the G-spot. So it's not a myth, there really is a pleasure spot in women... want more detailed info? Ask me... haha. The most interesting topic she discussed today was Chemical Influences on Attraction and Love. You know that HIGH you get when you first meet someone? Your heart beats really fast, you can't talk, your pain tolerance is great (bc you're so numb), etc.. yeah, that HIGH continues and lasts up until the moment you know the person is YOURS.. like when you have no more fear of losing that person, then that high is gone.. it's pretty sad really. So, that's an explanation why there are some people who break up after that high disappears bc they think something is wrong with them, but really, there isn't (well most of the time). So yeah, that moment when you stop getting that high, is called TOLERANCE. You are tolerant of your partner, and sometimes, you may become "sick" of the other person. That's where DECLINE comes in. But my teacher talked about how week (more or less, depending on how long the relationship is) breaks from each other after a HIGH has gone away is good bc when you see that person, you get that high all over again, but the cycle sometimes continues. HOWEVER, if you're lucky and if you're relationship is strong, you develop these bonding hormones (endorphins) that are responsible for the mushy stuff like nicknames. These hormones produce feelings of security, safety, comfort, well-being, etc... and those feelings go on as long as the relationship lasts. So in a nutshell, the cycle starts with attraction, tolerance & decline, then repeats, but sometimes bonding hormones occur after. Also, I guess a lot of people asked why females get really attached after having sex. Interested? Well, there is this hormone called oxytocin (more in women than in men) which is responsible for that feeling of attachment. This hormone is released during an orgasm.. and as most of you know, orgasms occur during intercourse, foreplay, and masturbation. So a woman can still "bond" to a man even when the man isn't there through masterbation. So, if you don't want a woman to become EMOTIONALLY ATTACHED to you, don't give her an orgasm. bottom line. Oh yeah, and men have SOME of this hormone, so they become emotionally attached too. But that emotional bond happens when they experience danger PLUS an orgasm. So a big scary brother/dad sometimes contributes to a man bonding to you. But again, all of these things vary from person to person.. it's just a general thing. Isn't it interesting though how LOVE and ATTRACTION are all in the brain!? After that class i went to boring biology with ben (ooh alliteration!).

Oh yeah, I thought that it was pretty crazy when she said that that feeling you get when you are first attracted to someone is VERY similar to the feeling you get after smoking a phat blunt. Weird, yet true.